Need help and advice?

I am planning on marrying a Nigerian man and I am from America. I understand and have read the negative stereotypes (possessive/controlling, multiple wives, cultural changes). I want to know if there is anything i can do to make sure he is being loyal/truthful and remain safe so I don't have trouble in the future.is there any support groups/people i can get in contact with? He lives in the UK and I am planning to see him soon. ThanksNeed help and advice?
Well all men have this tendency if they will to do it, but still it seams a long distance marriage and my advice here is give yrself time, and make sure he does what he says, and that he loves u for what u r.





Spend time together to study each other, study his body language and what he says and i wish u all the luck.








_K_Need help and advice?
How about, one of you moves to the city where the other lives and you spend time in the same room getting to know each other ... you know, like REAL dating.





How ELSE can you know anything about anyone, other than spending time with them?





The odds are stacked against you in so many ways that I'm not going to list them. If you are seriously wondering about your safety in the future, then do not marry this man.





You don't need support groups, hon. You need FACE TIME with this man, ok?





How many times have you seen him ? Out of curiousity ...
I feel before you make drastic moves to a country you know little to nothing about check out the rights a Nigerian wife has some countries they have no rights to divorce or leave even if they are american they become subject to their laws and get No voice.you really need to think girl you may find little to no support in a country where a wife is little more than a possession and with the way animals are treated here You can expect the same as a possession ,Sally field did a movie NOT WITHOUT MY DAUGHTER and it is a true story that a woman went through to get out.You may say oh he loves me he would never be mean to me YOU DO NOT KNOW are you so foolish as to put yourself in another country and hope he dose not turn.
if he has lived in the uk for a while you could go their magistrate and look up marriage licenses on him (just like here) or ask his family. get a feel for whom you should ask so as not to tip him off.
Honorabel Elija Muhammad through Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan teach us





There cannot be a new world except that there is a new and better understanding of the female, which will give us (men) a clearer understanding of self and above all, a clearer understanding of (God). In the Bible, (God) declares, “Behold I make all things new.” It is only through her that we live again, and again, and again. It is only through her that we continue to move toward the true perfection that (God) desires for His creation. She is the cornerstone of the family and therefore is critical in the whole process of nation and world building





If we wanted better relations between Black and White that includes OTHERS, . Black people, first have to come into a knowledge of self ORIGIN, GOD, HISTORY OF OTHERS. This act on our part will earn the respect of self as well as others. It will ultimately help us to have better relations with those who see us as an unwanted burden in this society.





Some of us have a false love for the White woman, and some of us have a false love for the White man. Some want the former slave master’s woman because the former slave master has always had free access to our women, and some want the White man because he wields great power in the society.





We must ask the question of those who have gone the way of having interracial relations, is the love a true love, or is it merely an acting out of a corrupted fantasy which is held by both Black and White? When we, as a people, are healed of our mental, moral and spiritual sickness, then maybe we can look across racial lines and see the true value and worth of one another. However, healing of the deadly diseases of White supremacy and Black inferiority has to take place first!





LOVE is Highest Order of GOD. What is LIFE? It is the activity that is in accord with the law under which we are created. LOVE is the creative force out of which life comes. To truly love is to live and to have true life is to exist in true love. Where true love exists, we can weather the storms of life and its ups and downs. Where true love exists, we will be faithful through sickness, poverty, and through whatever difficulty life brings to us. Therefore, to accomplish the goal of the union of two people is to gain the incomparable quality of true love.





So where there is love, love transcends our racial denomination or ethnicity. Love is the great power of transformation. I don't think that we can say when two people are so in love that they shouldn't marry one another.